Some thoughts on breast
cancer, the Komen Foundation, Planned Parenthood, and a letter to Nancy
Brinker.
The thing is, I’VE ALWAYS
HATED PINK!
I have lost too many people
to breast cancer and come perilously close to losing too many others to breast
cancer (mother, mother-in-law, cousins, friends). Over the years, I have walked
and donated “for the cure” because being surrounded by 1000’s of women was
empowering and probably helped me deal with my grief. I kept thinking that if
so many people were impacted by this disease, surely we could find a cure. Even
after I had my own doubts about SGK I donated so my friends could have that
empowering experience.
The news about Susan G Komen
and Planned Parenthood has confirmed my New Years decision to do my donating to
charities that have less than 2 degrees separation between me and the people
they help.
Contrary to popular belief,
Planned Parenthood does so much more than abortion. I’m pretty sure they do
more to help women than nearly any organization. Something like 90% of their
work is for well-women care. Yep, that’s like well-baby care, so that means
some percentage is also for ill-women care. And then there’s that troubling
percentage for abortions.
Let’s just start walking
together anyway! Sisterhood is
powerful. Really. We don’t even have to raise money while walking. We can just
be millions of strong women--walking. Komen can keep their pink money. I don’t
think Planned Parenthood should take it even if Komen begs them to take them
back but that’s for them to decide.
There are so many ways to
discuss the news about Susan G Komen and Planned Parenthood. For me, it all
boils down to wondering why so many people are against health care for women.
Why is there so much hatred toward women? Why is there so much recent
legislation aimed at preventing women from taking care of their bodies as they
see fit. And why is this legislation being introduced and supported by people
who claim they want the government out of “our” lives. Such hypocrisy! Why are
these people so afraid of women? Of Planned Parenthood? Planned Parenthood is
just a scapegoat for these people who are trying their best to control women’s
lives any way they can.
Anyway, back to Komen. Here’s
what I’d like to say to Nancy Brinker.
Dear Nancy,
Like you, I lost my sister,
Susan, to breast cancer when she was way too young. We had used your web site
along with others to learn as much as we could about the disease and treatment.
My husband, daughters and I ran and walked in the Race for the Cure beginning
after Susan died. Walking with 1000’s of women (and men) was so empowering and
I think also helped us deal with our grief. Over the years we also donated in
support of friends because we wanted them to have the same experience. I even
supported you in spite of my hatred of pink! (I have 3 daughters but never
dressed them in pink!)
Meanwhile, during these
years, I also started hearing disturbing stories about groups Komen had
partnered with, and about some of the things the foundation supported. I also
became more and more bothered with the merchandizing of breast cancer, but I
set my feelings aside because I convinced myself that what the foundation did
for breast cancer awareness was worth it.
When I started hearing that
the foundation was going stop helping to fund breast cancer screening at
Planned Parenthood, I was very upset. However I figured (and still do) that you
could spend your money how you wanted. But then—and I shouldn’t have been
surprised—I found that there were too many coincidental things involved.
I can understand how hard it
is to stand up to right wing conservative anti-abortion board members and
supporters. On the other hand, maybe you agreed with them? And if you agreed
with them, then why did you cave in to the outside pressure this week and
decide to reverse your decision about funding Planned Parenthood’s breast
cancer screening?
So – dear Nancy. In my humble
opinion as a fellow grieving sister, please do some soul searching and insist
that your organization do the same. I can’t help feeling that your sister must
be so disappointed in you. She must be wondering what happened to you and why
you can’t seem to stand up for what you really believe in. Do you really want
to find a cure for breast cancer? Or is enough to just teach women about
awareness and self-checking and early screening? Or maybe you want to do that,
as well as fund basic research? Do you really care about women’s health? Or do
you mostly care about making sure women can’t ever get abortions when needed?
Do you mostly care about maintaining your funding sources from anti-abortion
groups? Or do you want to maintain funding from people like me—people who like
you, lost a sister to breast cancer?
If I were you—I’d fire the
entire board and start over after I’ve figured out my priorities. Or I’d step
down because the foundation did not represent me and my sister any longer
(unless it does…see above.)
Maybe I’d cut my salary by at
least a half. Maybe cut it to the average income of an American woman who is
fighting breast cancer without health insurance. Ask the board to do the same.
Give the balance of my former salary to Planned Parenthood! Or to my local
favorite women’s health center! These steps would be a good way to stand up and
make a statement to people like me and to the rest of the world!
Finally, in case you haven’t
already figured it out, please know that I will not be supporting the Komen
foundation or helping friends participate in a Race for the Cure. Not ever
again. Your actions this week have proved to me that you and your foundation
have lost your way. I really wonder what Susan Komen would have done? Is this
what she meant with her dying wish to you? I thought the story was that she
asked you to do something to help find a cure for breast cancer.
Sincerely, Joan Adams Sesma
